Do you remember your first kiss? Was it exciting, thrilling, and titillating? Alternatively, was it awkward, clumsy, and slobbery?
Make no mistake: Kissing is NOT child’s play. Some even argue that the intimacy and arousal inherent to kissing are more intense than in just about any other sexual act.
Kissing can mean so many different things in different contexts. It can be sweet and loving and caring. It can be fiercely passionate and highly erotic. You can take your time and luxuriate in kissing. Kissing can also be rushed, signaling a severe hunger for more. Kissing can go on for hours. Or it can last just a minute.
Then there’s the somewhat philosophical question of what makes a person a good kisser. Most of us can agree on what makes a person NOT a good kisser. But beyond that, is it just chemistry? Finally, just what is the link between kissing and sex? Does being a good kisser make you good at sex? Do people who kiss more during sex have it more frequently? Is sex that involves kissing somehow better?
A New Kissing Study
A new academic journal article sheds light on how kissing relates to our sexual and relationship experiences. Researchers recruited 878 participants (433 men and 445 women) who reported being in a relationship for at least six months. Participants were first asked to indicate two things. First, they were asked how consistently they kissed (on the mouth) during sex. This, the researchers referred to as “specific kissing.” Second, participants indicated how consistently they kissed their partner when they were NOT having sex—just day to day. This measure was labeled “global kissing.”
Next, participants indicated a) how frequently they had sex with their partner, b) how often they orgasmed during sex, c) how satisfied they were overall with the sex in their relationship, and d) how satisfied they were in their relationship overall.
The results showed that specific kissing (kissing that happens during sex) was highly correlated with sexual frequency in both women and men. The participants in this study who kissed more during sex had more sex with their partners than those who didn’t.
A new academic journal article sheds light on how kissing relates to our sexual and relationship experiences. Researchers recruited 878 participants (433 men and 445 women) who reported being in a relationship for at least six months. Participants were first asked to indicate two things. First, they were asked how consistently they kissed (on the mouth) during sex. This, the researchers referred to as “specific kissing.” Second, participants indicated how consistently they kissed their partner when they were NOT having sex—just day to day. This measure was labeled “global kissing.”
